You wear your self-protection like a suit of armor, keeping you separate and, in your mind, safe.  But is that the real you?  This armor you wear is born of fear.  You do not need to control.  You do not need to fear.  You are loved.  You are a light-being.  What have you come here to learn?  Exactly that.  Take off your armor.  Can you offer your soft underbelly to the world in an act of submission?  These are all analogies.  The bottom line is:  You are safe and loved.