How do you connect with Spirit?  Remember the words “both/and”.  You are both a soul and a soul having a human experience.  As long as you are breathing in a human body you will have the human identity, but with awareness that the greater part of you is the soul, you can simply shift your focus to that viewpoint.  It matters not how long you hold that focus.  You are given free will.  This means you can choose to shift your focus again and again and again and again when you drift back to your human viewpoint.  Back and forth, back and forth is quite all right, for you are both/and.