They don’t act as you would like?  Love them anyway.  They don’t say what you want?  Love them anyway.  Need we go on?  No, of course we are not condoning unloving behavior and words.  We are suggesting you look beyond the words and actions to the part you fell in love with.  The challenge is when the human falls in love with the human part and the human part changes.  That is not love.  That is fear.  Your life is about discovering the difference.  Fear is a most excellent teacher.  Find first the love within and be content with that.  When you can do so, then the love within others will be revealed and you will feel that, too.  We love you so.