Getting the Most Out of Your Reading with Suzanne
For me, mediumship is sacred work. It's not about amazing you, the sitter. It's about proving that life is eternal, that we are
spirit-beings here and now and forevermore. It's about proving to you that your loved ones who have passed to the other
side still exist in spirit, and it's about giving those loved ones a chance to share with you their messages … to say the things
they didn't get to say while alive. So yes, it's great when amazing things come through in a reading--things I could never
have known or guessed--but those amazing things only serve the main purposes just mentioned.
The main focus of a medium--and my focus--is communication with the spirit world. During my readings I generally do not focus on your life, your current relationships, your finances, your health, or your future. That is psychic work. This brings up an important distinction: All mediums are psychic, but not all psychics are mediums. So while I may be able to answer your pressing questions about yourself, those questions are not my main focus.
During your reading, I want to provide you irrefutable evidence that I am tuning in to your loved one's spirit (we may hear from one or several people who have passed). I was trained to practice evidential mediumship, so for me, it's all about giving you details that you can validate. The spirit world knows the kinds of things I want to sense from them, so they will give me as much of the following evidence as they are able to get through and I am able to perceive:
- Who they are (Male or female, and what relationship are they to you, the sitter?)
- How old they were when they died (I usually sense the age with an accuracy of within ten years of when they passed)
- What they died of
- What kind of work they did
- What their personality was like
- Their likes and dislikes
- What they looked like
- Their name, nicknames, or "pet" names (It is a rare ability for mediums to sense names, and it is an ability that I am still working to develop. Please do not be disappointed if we do not get a name. The rest of the evidence should leave you with no doubt that your loved one was present without having to hear a name).
- A treasured possession
- Something they gave you or you gave them
- Things from their home
- Memories that mean something to you
-The name of a town or place that was significant to you or them
- A major past event in their life
- A favorite phrase or expression
- A favorite song or movie
- What they drove
- Something of importance going on now in your life or a close family member's life
- A recent birthday or anniversary
- Pets they had
- Their message for you
This last one is very important. Some mediums will give you nothing but messages. The problem with messages is that you usually can't validate them. That's the beauty of an evidential reading. When your loved one gets a lot of the things on my list through to me, then you can trust that the messages I'm hearing and sensing are valid, too. I won't pass along a loved one's messages of love unless I truly FEEL that love from them to you. I have come to find that many people's family members were not as loving as they could have been, so if I were to tell you that so-and-so is here, and they loved you very much, when they never had a kind thing to say about you while alive, that wouldn't be very evidential! Often a spirit will have regrets about things they did or didn't do while alive. If that is so, I will FEEL that regret and tell you about it. If they have an apology, I will pass that along as well, but I will always wait for the spirit to get through to me exactly what they need you to hear.
So yes, I FEEL the presence of a spirit when I ask your loved ones to be present. I feel their personality and their emotions. I hear words and full phrases and I see images that they put in my mind. Unfortunately, this is not as easy as picking up a phone and hearing someone talk. Far from it! The information coming through is very, very subtle. All of the evidence comes to me not in the order of the list above, but like random pieces of a puzzle. I give you the pieces; it's your job to fit those pieces together until together we have created such a clear picture of your loved one that you know they still exist.
To understand how the evidence comes through to me, you need to understand that spirit, just like everything that exists, is pure vibrating energy. I, as a medium, am like a radio antenna that picks up the frequency of that spirit and the information they are transmitting to me and I interpret it. Love has a very identifiable vibration, as does regret. Every word, thought, and emotion has its own energy. Like a radio, there are certain frequencies I can't tune in to. If the spirit communicator tries to send me a certain word or thought and I don't pick up on it, they will try to get the same thing through to me another way. Here's an example: I was recently tuning in to a sitter's mother on the other side. We had established with a lot of other evidence that this was indeed the sitter's mother. I heard the word "tornado" from the spirit-mother and passed that to the sitter. She could think of no reason why her mother would bring up a tornado. When I heard this, I tried to figure out what the spirit-mother might be trying to get through. In my mind, I relate tornadoes with Kansas, so the only thing I could think of was that the spirit-mother was from Kanas. And she was!
You can see from this example that the spirit world is very clever. They will use symbols and any other means to get their messages and evidence through me to you. I will tell you every single thing I sense, even if I personally think it's insignificant. It's up to you to interpret what the things I'm sensing mean. I have learned to hold nothing back. I had a spirit-mother give me the word "forest." My first thought was that "forest" is such a general word, it can't be significant to the sitter. Because I had promised the spirit world that I wouldn't hold anything back, I went ahead and told my sitter that her mother was giving me the word "forest." As it turned out, "Forest" was her mother's father's name!
As far as my accuracy, it varies from reading to reading. Some days almost everything out of my mouth is a "hit". Of course that is my goal, but there are other days, because of the energy present, my accuracy may go as low as 50%. This is not about keeping score. What I have come to learn is that it's not the number of hits or percentage of accuracy that matters, but those truly "wow" pieces of evidence that leave no doubt in your mind that your loved one is there.
I will give you some paper and a pen when you come for your reading. This is for you to write down not only the pieces of evidence that make both of us say, "Wow!" but also to write down the things you can't identify or make sense of. I can't tell you how many times a sitter has called or emailed me after a reading to tell me that they figured out what their loved one was trying to get through that they couldn't figure out during the reading. The reason you may not be able to identify a piece of evidence during the reading could be one of the following:
- You're still focused on a piece of evidence or are in a daze from something that came through earlier
- You're so focused on hearing what you want to hear that you miss something meaningful. I once had a spirit-mother give me the name "Shirley." My sitter said it had no meaning to her. Two more times the name Shirley came through, but my sitter kept shaking her head because she didn't know anyone named Shirley. I asked her to write it down anyway. Just as the reading was coming to a close, the sitter realized that Shirley wasn't a person's name, but the name of her mother's favorite vacation spot: Shirley Island! In fact, the sitter had just sold a piece of property that her mother had owned on Shirley Island. This turned out to be a very significant piece of evidence.
- You've forgotten a certain memory or didn't make a connection with a certain memory. I had a spirit-husband talk to me about a bookcase. His wife couldn't figure out why he was talking about a bookcase, but I asked her to write it down. Only later did she remember that he had hidden her engagement ring in the bookcase before leading her to find it there!
- You don't know a certain piece of evidence about the loved one in spirit. I had a spirit-uncle show me that he liked to box. My sitter could not confirm this until later, after she checked with her aunt. Only then did she learn that her uncle had indeed been a boxer! Evidence like this is great, because it shows that I wasn't simply reading my sitter's mind. There's only one way I could have known that fact about her uncle: he told me from the other side!
This is what makes a reading so fascinating. I give you the evidence and you interpret it. I will ask you during the reading to take notes and keep your interpretations to yourself until the end. This helps me to hold the energetic link with your loved one instead of focusing on what you're saying. For example, I recently heard "Over the rainbow" during a reading and the sitter simply accepted this as a valid "hit." At the end of the reading she told me that The Wizard of Oz was her loved one's favorite movie and that he quoted it all the time. During another reading I clearly heard the spirit-father say, "Those cigarettes will kill you." The sitter simply confirmed that this had great meaning to her. At the end of the reading she shared with me that her father had such an aversion to cigarettes that he lectured every smoker he knew about the evils of smoking and even had a poem he recited about "the evil weed (tobacco)."
So, with all that having been said, yes, I will be looking for feedback from you during your reading, but not because I'm fishing for clues. I only need you to let me know if I'm on track and that I'm sensing things correctly. It's especially important that you not give me MORE information during the reading than I've just given you. If I tell you that the spirit person died of an illness rather than an accident, please do not jump the gun and tell me what illness they died of. That is my job and the spirit communicator's job! If you want to share additional things about your loved one, please hold onto those thoughts until the end.
As far as who comes through in a reading, it could be just one person or several. It's important not to get locked into just one person as I give you the evidence. I could be tuning in to several people at once, and I may need your help to sort them out. I had a woman's mother and aunt come in at the same time. The clues were confusing until the sitter told me it sounded as if I were talking about both women. Only when I asked the two spirits to differentiate themselves was I able to sense them as separate individuals.
Along those same lines, I cannot promise who will come through in a reading. Happily, I almost always bring through exactly who the sitter hoped to hear from, but if we near the end of a reading and that person has not come through, I will ask if you have heard from everyone you wanted to. If not, I will ask who it was, and then I will try to attune to them. The reasons you may not hear from a particular spirit vary, but most often it's simply a mismatch in frequency between their energy and mine. It does not mean that they don't want to talk to you.
Can you ask your loved one a question? Yes, but I ask you to save those questions until the end.
Do I record the sessions? Yes, I record them on a digital recorder (NOT a cassette recorder). As soon as the reading is over I will email you a copy of the recording in the form of an audio file. You will be able to listen to the file on your computer.
One final request for you: please do not arrive early. I have to prepare myself mentally for a reading, and that requires a few minutes alone before the start of the reading. If you arrive early, this disrupts my routine and the energy. Thanks so much for waiting until the appointed time.
To summarize, I am going to do my best for you and your loved ones on the other side during your reading, but I need your help to do that. Please come with an open mind and an open heart. The higher your energy, the easier it is for me to establish and hold the link with the other side. Please be open to hearing whatever comes through. Again, if you are locked into hearing the "one piece of evidence" or "the one name" that in your mind is the only thing that will prove that your loved one is around, then you may leave disappointed. We will be putting together a beautiful puzzle during your reading made up of the evidence that your loved one is able to get through the very subtle veil of energy that separates you. If all goes well, you will leave saying, "Wow!" but most importantly, you will leave with the comfort of knowing that your loved ones are still around. I look forward to helping to reunite you and your loved ones.
The main focus of a medium--and my focus--is communication with the spirit world. During my readings I generally do not focus on your life, your current relationships, your finances, your health, or your future. That is psychic work. This brings up an important distinction: All mediums are psychic, but not all psychics are mediums. So while I may be able to answer your pressing questions about yourself, those questions are not my main focus.
During your reading, I want to provide you irrefutable evidence that I am tuning in to your loved one's spirit (we may hear from one or several people who have passed). I was trained to practice evidential mediumship, so for me, it's all about giving you details that you can validate. The spirit world knows the kinds of things I want to sense from them, so they will give me as much of the following evidence as they are able to get through and I am able to perceive:
- Who they are (Male or female, and what relationship are they to you, the sitter?)
- How old they were when they died (I usually sense the age with an accuracy of within ten years of when they passed)
- What they died of
- What kind of work they did
- What their personality was like
- Their likes and dislikes
- What they looked like
- Their name, nicknames, or "pet" names (It is a rare ability for mediums to sense names, and it is an ability that I am still working to develop. Please do not be disappointed if we do not get a name. The rest of the evidence should leave you with no doubt that your loved one was present without having to hear a name).
- A treasured possession
- Something they gave you or you gave them
- Things from their home
- Memories that mean something to you
-The name of a town or place that was significant to you or them
- A major past event in their life
- A favorite phrase or expression
- A favorite song or movie
- What they drove
- Something of importance going on now in your life or a close family member's life
- A recent birthday or anniversary
- Pets they had
- Their message for you
This last one is very important. Some mediums will give you nothing but messages. The problem with messages is that you usually can't validate them. That's the beauty of an evidential reading. When your loved one gets a lot of the things on my list through to me, then you can trust that the messages I'm hearing and sensing are valid, too. I won't pass along a loved one's messages of love unless I truly FEEL that love from them to you. I have come to find that many people's family members were not as loving as they could have been, so if I were to tell you that so-and-so is here, and they loved you very much, when they never had a kind thing to say about you while alive, that wouldn't be very evidential! Often a spirit will have regrets about things they did or didn't do while alive. If that is so, I will FEEL that regret and tell you about it. If they have an apology, I will pass that along as well, but I will always wait for the spirit to get through to me exactly what they need you to hear.
So yes, I FEEL the presence of a spirit when I ask your loved ones to be present. I feel their personality and their emotions. I hear words and full phrases and I see images that they put in my mind. Unfortunately, this is not as easy as picking up a phone and hearing someone talk. Far from it! The information coming through is very, very subtle. All of the evidence comes to me not in the order of the list above, but like random pieces of a puzzle. I give you the pieces; it's your job to fit those pieces together until together we have created such a clear picture of your loved one that you know they still exist.
To understand how the evidence comes through to me, you need to understand that spirit, just like everything that exists, is pure vibrating energy. I, as a medium, am like a radio antenna that picks up the frequency of that spirit and the information they are transmitting to me and I interpret it. Love has a very identifiable vibration, as does regret. Every word, thought, and emotion has its own energy. Like a radio, there are certain frequencies I can't tune in to. If the spirit communicator tries to send me a certain word or thought and I don't pick up on it, they will try to get the same thing through to me another way. Here's an example: I was recently tuning in to a sitter's mother on the other side. We had established with a lot of other evidence that this was indeed the sitter's mother. I heard the word "tornado" from the spirit-mother and passed that to the sitter. She could think of no reason why her mother would bring up a tornado. When I heard this, I tried to figure out what the spirit-mother might be trying to get through. In my mind, I relate tornadoes with Kansas, so the only thing I could think of was that the spirit-mother was from Kanas. And she was!
You can see from this example that the spirit world is very clever. They will use symbols and any other means to get their messages and evidence through me to you. I will tell you every single thing I sense, even if I personally think it's insignificant. It's up to you to interpret what the things I'm sensing mean. I have learned to hold nothing back. I had a spirit-mother give me the word "forest." My first thought was that "forest" is such a general word, it can't be significant to the sitter. Because I had promised the spirit world that I wouldn't hold anything back, I went ahead and told my sitter that her mother was giving me the word "forest." As it turned out, "Forest" was her mother's father's name!
As far as my accuracy, it varies from reading to reading. Some days almost everything out of my mouth is a "hit". Of course that is my goal, but there are other days, because of the energy present, my accuracy may go as low as 50%. This is not about keeping score. What I have come to learn is that it's not the number of hits or percentage of accuracy that matters, but those truly "wow" pieces of evidence that leave no doubt in your mind that your loved one is there.
I will give you some paper and a pen when you come for your reading. This is for you to write down not only the pieces of evidence that make both of us say, "Wow!" but also to write down the things you can't identify or make sense of. I can't tell you how many times a sitter has called or emailed me after a reading to tell me that they figured out what their loved one was trying to get through that they couldn't figure out during the reading. The reason you may not be able to identify a piece of evidence during the reading could be one of the following:
- You're still focused on a piece of evidence or are in a daze from something that came through earlier
- You're so focused on hearing what you want to hear that you miss something meaningful. I once had a spirit-mother give me the name "Shirley." My sitter said it had no meaning to her. Two more times the name Shirley came through, but my sitter kept shaking her head because she didn't know anyone named Shirley. I asked her to write it down anyway. Just as the reading was coming to a close, the sitter realized that Shirley wasn't a person's name, but the name of her mother's favorite vacation spot: Shirley Island! In fact, the sitter had just sold a piece of property that her mother had owned on Shirley Island. This turned out to be a very significant piece of evidence.
- You've forgotten a certain memory or didn't make a connection with a certain memory. I had a spirit-husband talk to me about a bookcase. His wife couldn't figure out why he was talking about a bookcase, but I asked her to write it down. Only later did she remember that he had hidden her engagement ring in the bookcase before leading her to find it there!
- You don't know a certain piece of evidence about the loved one in spirit. I had a spirit-uncle show me that he liked to box. My sitter could not confirm this until later, after she checked with her aunt. Only then did she learn that her uncle had indeed been a boxer! Evidence like this is great, because it shows that I wasn't simply reading my sitter's mind. There's only one way I could have known that fact about her uncle: he told me from the other side!
This is what makes a reading so fascinating. I give you the evidence and you interpret it. I will ask you during the reading to take notes and keep your interpretations to yourself until the end. This helps me to hold the energetic link with your loved one instead of focusing on what you're saying. For example, I recently heard "Over the rainbow" during a reading and the sitter simply accepted this as a valid "hit." At the end of the reading she told me that The Wizard of Oz was her loved one's favorite movie and that he quoted it all the time. During another reading I clearly heard the spirit-father say, "Those cigarettes will kill you." The sitter simply confirmed that this had great meaning to her. At the end of the reading she shared with me that her father had such an aversion to cigarettes that he lectured every smoker he knew about the evils of smoking and even had a poem he recited about "the evil weed (tobacco)."
So, with all that having been said, yes, I will be looking for feedback from you during your reading, but not because I'm fishing for clues. I only need you to let me know if I'm on track and that I'm sensing things correctly. It's especially important that you not give me MORE information during the reading than I've just given you. If I tell you that the spirit person died of an illness rather than an accident, please do not jump the gun and tell me what illness they died of. That is my job and the spirit communicator's job! If you want to share additional things about your loved one, please hold onto those thoughts until the end.
As far as who comes through in a reading, it could be just one person or several. It's important not to get locked into just one person as I give you the evidence. I could be tuning in to several people at once, and I may need your help to sort them out. I had a woman's mother and aunt come in at the same time. The clues were confusing until the sitter told me it sounded as if I were talking about both women. Only when I asked the two spirits to differentiate themselves was I able to sense them as separate individuals.
Along those same lines, I cannot promise who will come through in a reading. Happily, I almost always bring through exactly who the sitter hoped to hear from, but if we near the end of a reading and that person has not come through, I will ask if you have heard from everyone you wanted to. If not, I will ask who it was, and then I will try to attune to them. The reasons you may not hear from a particular spirit vary, but most often it's simply a mismatch in frequency between their energy and mine. It does not mean that they don't want to talk to you.
Can you ask your loved one a question? Yes, but I ask you to save those questions until the end.
Do I record the sessions? Yes, I record them on a digital recorder (NOT a cassette recorder). As soon as the reading is over I will email you a copy of the recording in the form of an audio file. You will be able to listen to the file on your computer.
One final request for you: please do not arrive early. I have to prepare myself mentally for a reading, and that requires a few minutes alone before the start of the reading. If you arrive early, this disrupts my routine and the energy. Thanks so much for waiting until the appointed time.
To summarize, I am going to do my best for you and your loved ones on the other side during your reading, but I need your help to do that. Please come with an open mind and an open heart. The higher your energy, the easier it is for me to establish and hold the link with the other side. Please be open to hearing whatever comes through. Again, if you are locked into hearing the "one piece of evidence" or "the one name" that in your mind is the only thing that will prove that your loved one is around, then you may leave disappointed. We will be putting together a beautiful puzzle during your reading made up of the evidence that your loved one is able to get through the very subtle veil of energy that separates you. If all goes well, you will leave saying, "Wow!" but most importantly, you will leave with the comfort of knowing that your loved ones are still around. I look forward to helping to reunite you and your loved ones.
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